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Taking Care of Yourself In caring for ourselves we need to identify those activities which are healing to us as well as those areas that may hinder our healing and cope with each appropriately.
Give yourself permission, time, and space to grieve.
Don't pretend that death doesn't hurt
Feel free to protest the "why" of the death
Don't judge your level of grief and healing by how others are grieving and healing, but by your own internal awareness
Understand and accept your limitations
Respect your spouse's timetable and method of grieving
Don't escape into loneliness
Get rid of imagined guilt and "if onlys"
Laughter doesn't mean you are being disrespectful to your child's memory
Confront the fears of your death and the death of other loved ones
Cry
Honestly express your feelings about this death to people who will understand and not be judgmental and who will not be hurt by your honest expression of feelings
Recognize that seeking professional counseling doesn't mean that you are weak, inadequate, or crazy
Use religion, philosophy, poetry, music, art, gardening, tennis, walks at nature centers, reading, volunteer work, to gain relief and understanding.
Talk about your experience to friends who were involved and to friends who were not involved with the death
Accept your friends with all their imperfections and occasional bad advice, you too have your moments of imperfection
Tell others what you want from them: help, emotional support, time sharing
Continue to participate in activities that are fun for you and with people who are special to you, don't underestimate the effects of small pleasures.
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